Relationship and Couples
Counselling for Individual and Couples with
Who Comes For Relationship Counselling?
We work with both individuals and couples who are experiencing problems with relationships. This includes problems forming relationships, dissatisfaction with an existing relationship or difficulties around the ending of a relationship.
Many couples come for counselling because they are looking to save their partnership or marriage. Others, however, may have no intention of splitting up but want to improve the quality of their life together. Alternatively, a couple may be trying to navigate their way as amicably as possible through a break-up or a divorce.
Individuals seek counselling for similar reasons, but may want to deal with a relationship issue on their own rather than with their partner. A frequent reason why individuals come for counselling is because they are struggling to deal with the emotional fall-out following a separation.
Couples and Relationship Counselling during the Coronavirus Epidemic
We are currently offering online and telephone counselling for individuals experiencing relationship issues, but not for couples.
Sessions for couples will be offered when we are able to resume face-to-face counselling. This will be determined by Government guidelines and our own assessment as to the safety and practicality of offering face-to-face counselling sessions during the Covid-19 outbreak.
If you wish to discuss this further then contact us through this website.
Why Relationships Break Down
The reasons why relationships break down are many but can include financial difficulties, family bereavement, infidelity, loss of trust, compatibility problems, career priorities, life changes, family pressures, issues with step-children, illness or the simple reality of two people growing apart with the passage of time.
We are not always the same people we were when we first met and were in the first throws of romantic love. And if it wasn’t romantic love you felt at the start of your relationship then maybe you are wondering whether you got together with your partner for the wrong reasons.
How Counselling Can Help
In all these situations, counselling can help you to develop your understanding of why your relationship isn’t working or why it has failed. It can help to improve the quality of your current or future relationships, decide whether you’re in the right relationship, manage emotions more effectively and ultimately move forward with your life in a fulfilling and purposeful way.
Key considerations for couples at the start of therapy will be what brought you together in the first place, what you are looking for from your relationship, whether that is realistic or achieveable, and what goals you now want to set yourselves.
It can also be important to understand the ways in which relationships evolve over time, allowing you to gain insight into where your own relationship sits in that process of evolution. This can provide reassurance and hope to those who feel that their situation is beyond repair.
How Relationship Counselling Works
Relationship counselling provides a setting in which you can express your feelings openly and honestly without fear of being judged by your counsellor. These may include feelings of betrayal, distrust, anger, rejection, loneliness, alienation, frustration, anxiety, fear and loss.
There are two main aspects to relationship and couples counselling. The first involves dealing with day-to-day communication, relational and emotional issues. This may include addressing problems which have affected the partnership such as affairs, bereavement or life-changes as well as common arguments and disputes.
The second involves the exploration of your past and the wider context of your partnership. The purpose here is to understand more fully the determining factors which have shaped your relationship, the ways you interact with each other and the emotions which drive those interactions. These less self-evident factors will influence how you function as a couple at a deeper level. Strategies can be developed for addressing these issues.
This can be more challenging work requiring self-reflection and honesty, but can be instrumental in helping to bring about more profound change in your relationship and maximising its long-term potential.
Work of this kind can also help an individual to overcome issues around forming satisfying relationships, maybe due to fear of intimacy, lack of self-confidence, or reluctance to commit to a longer-term partnership.
The Goals of Relationship Counselling
Whether you are coming for counselling as an individual or a couple the aim is to help you to become more conscious of the unique factors which shape your particular relationship and more self-aware and mindful about how you navigate your relationship and of the ways you communicate with one another.
This will help you to modify your behaviours in ways which enhance the quality of your relationship and deepen the joy and pleasures it can bring.
For an individual who has broken up with a partner or for a couple deciding to go their own separate ways counselling should at the very least help you to learn from past mistakes and be clearer about the kind of personal relationship you are looking for in the future.
For a couple it may help to heal old wounds and improve intimacy in ways which will allow the partnership to continue to grow and develop, as all relationships must do if they are going to survive and flourish.